So, we often talk about good girls and bad boys. I blame songs like this. This is so incredibly adorable and it made all the squishy, feminine parts of my heart say “AWWWWW!!!!”
Girls have one very fatal flaw, and that is this: “But he’s different with me. He’ll change for me.” I’m guilty of this. There was a boy who I liked for a long time who I knew was trouble (I knew you were trouble when you walked in… Sorry. That was necessary. Watch this while you’re at it)
ANYWAY… I liked him a lot and I made some poor decisions because of it. I knew what kind of guy he was and I had seen the way he treated girls, but somewhere in my mind I said to myself “It’s OK because I’m different.” Guess what? I was wrong.
I wasn’t different. And I’m still not. I’m not special and the pattern is not going to magically change for me. That’s a hard reality to face, especially when you’re emotions are tied into it. It’s not that this boy was a bad kid because of it, he’s just being who he is. And he’s a very good friend of mine and I think he’s fantastic, but I know what he’s like. I shouldn’t have let my mind go there, but I did because I was living under the delusion that I was special.
We often live under that impression. The idea that, somehow, the rules don’t apply to us because we’re special. That we don’t need to follow the speed limit, or eat healthy, or stay away from that person because the rules are different for us. And we’re so wrong. I’m not accusing here, I do it all the time. But let me tell you, you’re not special.
The rules apply to you. That boy is not going to change for you no matter how much you think he likes you. And don’t go telling me “but this is different!” because you’re wrong. I’ve been there, I’ve done that. Unless he says that he’s going to change and then does something about it, don’t believe it. And boys, I’m talking to you too. She’s not going to change for you. I’m sorry that it sucks, but it’s true. Just take my word for it. I’ve been on this planet for a while (not a super long while, but long enough to know a little bit about something,) and this has been my experience every single time.
Sorry that that had to be bitter and depressing, it was just something on my mind as I watched that video and I felt like it needed to be said.
Mission of the Day- Tell me your thoughts on this matter.
Second Mission of the Day- Show that Taylor Swift video to someone and make them laugh.